Infidelity Therapy

How I help

Discovering infidelity can feel like your entire world has been turned upside down. If you’re struggling to make sense of an incident of cheating in your relationship and are unsure about how to move forward, couples therapy can help. I work with couples to get them to a place of understanding more quickly, helping rebuild trust step by step.

Is this you?

  • You discovered your partner’s affair and now feel blindsided, disoriented, or emotionally broken.

  • You want to try again but are consumed by the fear that it could happen again.

  • You find yourself obsessing over the details and struggle to let go of your need for answers.

  • Your connection feels fractured and making yourself available again just doesn’t feel safe.

  • Whether you were the unfaithful or the betrayed, feelings of guilt, blame, or resentment consume you.

  • While the thought of the relationship ending feels frightening, you also can’t imagine ever getting through this.

When trust is broken, everything feels uncertain.

In the face of infidelity, many couples find themselves trapped in a painful cycle, oscillating between feelings of anger and sadness. Unable to communicate without conversations falling apart, things feel fragile. If you were betrayed, you may feel humiliated, numb, or stuck replaying every detail in search of answers. If you were the one who cheated, you may be filled with guilt, confusion, or defensiveness. Both of you may feel completely alone in your pain.

There’s often a deep fear that things will never be the same again, that the connection you once had is gone for good. Ambivalence is a common experience during these times, as you battle conflicting feelings about whether to stay or leave the relationship. While part of you might still want to stay and fight, another part doesn’t know how.

Cheating and infidelity often leave couples wanting immediate relief from the pain. While this is a reasonable and logical desire, it runs the risk of rushing delicate stages of the process that are crucial for rebuilding. In light of this, having a seasoned third party to help you sort though the confusion and pain can make all the difference.

Couple embracing after working though cheating and infidelity through therapy - Oakland Therapy

How I help.

Infidelity doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship — but it does mean something has to change. Affairs often reveal deeper ruptures that need addressing: unmet needs, emotional distance, or unspoken frustrations. Left unexamined, these wounds tend to resurface again and again, making way for deep resentment to set in.

But healing is possible. When working with infidelity, I utilize a two-fold approach that aims to increase both trust and understanding in tandem, two crucial ingredients in the road to repair. I help partners slow down and begin the hard but necessary work of repairing emotional safety, while working to increase understanding about what led to the disconnection in the first place.

In our sessions, we won’t rush past the pain — but we also won’t stay stuck in it. Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who broke the trust, your voice matters. Together, we’ll create a framework for accountability, emotional reconnection, and long-term repair, one step at a time.

Schedule a free 20 minute consultation today to see if I might be a good fit for you.

Before > After Infidelity Counseling

  • After > You’ve rebuilt a sense of safety and can talk without spiraling into blame or withdrawal.

  • After > You feel more grounded, supported, and clear about your path forward.

  • After > You’ve learned how to honor the pain, but no longer feel stuck in an unproductive cycle.

  • After > You communicate more openly, honestly, and with emotional transparency.

  • After > You’ve developed new trust — not just in your partner, but in the strength of your relationship.

Ready to take the first step?

Book a complimentary 20-minute phone consultation and start rebuilding your relationship today.