High Conflict Relationships
How I help
Being in a high conflict relationship can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. If you and your partner find yourselves escalating quickly whenever you get into an argument, couples therapy can help. I teach tools to help you communicate more effectively and get to the core of the issues that are keeping you stuck.
Is this you?
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Simple conversations end in intense fights, bringing out the worst in each of you.
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You carefully dance around your words to avoid triggering your partner.
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You feel emotionally disconnected from each other, and sense it’s getting worse.
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You fall into cycles of finger-pointing and gaslighting during tough conversations.
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Old topics often resurface during conflict, leaving you feeling frustrated and exhausted.
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You’re emotionally drained, defeated, and unsure if things can improve.
It’s not just the content, it’s also the process.
Living in a state of constant tension is exhausting. Trust issues, poor communication habits, and past unresolved traumas can all lead to toxic dynamics in your relationship. For many couples, the desire to be together is still there, but it's buried beneath layers of hurt, frustration, and poor communication.
You’ve tried talking it through so many times, but every time the conversation breaks down and leaves you both feeling worse. If this sounds familiar, you’re probably starting to wonder if resolution is even possible.
But what if your problem might have less to do with what you’re fighting about and more to do with how you’re fighting? Without realizing it, most couples adopt highly ineffective communication patterns that leave them stuck in gridlock whenever tension arises. If we want to properly address the content of your conflict, we also have to look at the process.
How I help.
Frequent high conflict doesn’t necessarily mean that a relationship is doomed, but it can point to underlying habits and issues that need attention. Left unaddressed, these patterns can take a toll on your relationship and cause serious damage to your health and self-esteem.
But there’s good news: Dynamics can shift. With the right tools, support, and commitment, couples can move away from strain and into a more respectful, connected, and peaceful way of relating.
My approach to working with couples facing high conflict aims to get to the root of both partners’ experiences, introducing a framework that allows for everyone’s frustrations and needs to be addressed. We’ll spend time talking about the topics that have been keeping you in disagreement, but in way that increases understanding, improves connection, and fosters mutual respect.
Schedule a free 20 minute consultation today to see if I might be a good fit for you.
Before > After Couples Counseling
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After > Disagreements are handled with curiosity, calm, and respect.
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After > You feel heard, understood, and emotionally safe.
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After > You’re able to express needs and repair old wounds.
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After > You address issues early with openness and care.
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After > You feel empowered, connected, and on the same team again.
Ready to take the first step?
Book a complimentary 20-minute phone consultation and start rebuilding your relationship today.